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WHY ME?  Why does a good God allow this?

Why do bad things happen to good people?

litngWhy didn't my parents want me?
Why did I get cancer?
Why was I put off work?
Why am I always bullied?
Why did my mother die?
Why did I suffer child abuse?

wthkSometimes we suffer pain because of our own bad choices in life.  But sometimes we suffer through no direct fault of our own.  This page concerns the latter group of people, people who feel depressed, victimised and think "Why me?  Am I being punished by a higher power?" and "Why do bad things happen to good people?"

Life is unfair!

My son with cancer aged 17Life is not fair!  This photo is of my son.  At his seventeenth birthday, he was diagnosed with an extremely rare aggressive cancer.  The cause was completely unknown and the best medical experts were sure he would die an agonising death in just eight weeks, with or without the best medical treatments!  My son asked me, "Dad, why did this happen to me, why me?"

This is a severe problem for any family to face.  We were blessed, being Christians, because Jesus guided us through this difficult time and we knew God was working it out for good.  My son was seventeen and a half in this photo - alive and reasonably well four months after he should have died: all with no medical treatments.  This was due to God giving us a miracle in answer to our prayers.  We also had the support of other mature Christians around us.  At times like these, you really need a lot of support.  You also need to focus on ETERNITY; life after death and being with God and your loved ones forever in heaven.  This puts a short or long life on earth into the right perspective.


JOB - an insight into "Why me?"

The Bible tells us of the tragedy that happened to Job. (Job is actually pronounced Jobe.) Job lived about 4,000 years ago, he was a very good man who served God faithfully and stayed away from all that was evil. Job was head of his family, which he lovingly cared for.  He was also very wealthy.  On one day, Job was suddenly faced with four tragic events:-

  • Sabean raiders took his donkeys, oxen, and killed his servants looking after them. But one servant escaped to tell the bad news.
  • Fire from heaven came down, killed his sheep and the servants looking after them. But one servant escaped to tell the bad news.
  • Chaldean raiders took his camels and killed his servants who were looking after them. But one servant escaped to tell the bad news.
  • There was a violent wind which collapsed the home of his eldest son, right at the time that Job's seven sons and three daughters were present and celebrating together. Everyone was killed except one servant who escaped to tell the bad news.

Job was in great grief. He had lost all his wealth and children. Yet he continued to love God and worship Him.

Then Job's health failed. He developed a grievous skin disease and sat down in ashes, in misery scratching himself, while he continued to grieve.

Job's wife had gone past her breaking point. She said to her husband, who was almost unrecognisable by now, "Why don't you curse God and die!" It wasn't the right thing to say, but who could blame her?

Three faithful friends came to mourn with Job. They sat with him for a week without speaking. Nobody had seen such grief and suffering before. Eventually the three faithful friends began speaking and they tried hard to explain why all this had happened. Most of the 42 chapters in the book of Job in the Bible deals with Job's friends trying to find an explaination for Job.  But human wisdom increases during the conversations.  It sort of goes like "Well Job, just maybe you did something wrong?" Then, "Everyone knows the law of cause and effect. Job, you must have done something wrong." Then, "Job, you've been as wicked as anyone can be. You deserve all that's coming to you."

God intervenes in the end and God is angered by the foolishness spoken by Job's three friends.  Job grows in his personal knowledge of God.  Job prays and asks God to forgive his foolish friends, then Job's health, fortune and family get restored.  As for the tragedies, they were instigated by Satan. All through the process, God was in perfect control.  A higher purpose had been happening all along.  You can read the full story for yourself in the Bible.  It gives real insight into "why me?" and "why do bad things happen to good people?".

What can you do if you are suffering?

The Bible teaches us:-

  • God is always in control over all circumstances.  You can thank Jesus Christ that He knows all about your situation and He's willing to help you through it.  God has allowed this situation to continue for a short while as part of His greater purposes for His creation.
  • Bad things, like disease, suffering and death ultimately come from Satan, not God.
  • God is a God of justice and every bad thing, whether it's caused by Satan or other people will be judged on Judgement Day.  Perfect justice for all is coming soon.
  • Those who love and serve God will be blessed in the end.  God will cause good to come out of every situation, including ones that appear evil.
  • Reading God's Word and hearing God's voice for yourself are essential to understand God's purposes.  Suggested passages to start with are:-

Luke chapter 13, where Jesus speaks of the tragedy of those killed by collapse of the tower.

John chapter 9, where Jesus speaks about a man born blind.

Psalm 10 - the apparent prosperity of the wicked.
Psalm 46 - God's help in times of trouble.
Psalm 56 - oppressed by wicked man.
Psalm 66 - God's greatness and praise.
Psalm 69 - prayer for God's help.

The whole Book of Job.

  • Be encouraged.  Seek Jesus Christ for yourself. The right questions to ask include "Lord, what do I need to learn?" and "Lord, what should I do? How must I respond to this situation?" God always leads His people through tough sitautions.
  • Focus on the future.  Focus on Jesus, Life after Death and being with your believing loved ones forever in heaven.
  • You also need the love and support of other mature Christians at a good local church.  We are here to help you at Monash Christian Fellowship.

 

... all things work together for good to those who love God,
to those who are called according to His purpose.
Romans 8:28   New King James Translation

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Produced by Monash Christian Fellowship, Melbourne, Australia.  Author Pastor Bill Wheaton 2009.  This document may be freely reproduced and used for non-profit evangelism provided that it is unchanged and carries this credit.